Ok, basically ive been going out with my girlfriend for about 4 months now, so the new relationship fun has gone out the window. Im currently stuck in the middle of my A-levels. It is evident that she likes me alot more than I like her (I think she is trying to use the word 'love'). I can live with all of that, but it should be taken into account with my problem:
I am a perfectionist (almost to the point of obsessive compulsive). She is a very pretty girl, and i really like her. But she is never embarrassed about anything; she will come on a date unsuitably dressed, her hair in a mess, with coffee breath (I hate coffee and she knows it). The worst part is that she doesnt do it intentionally, and comments how other people have no style (whilst wearing a formal dress... with jeans underneath). And when a song is played anywhere, she will drop everything and dance..badly.
Feel free to call me a superficial twat, aslong as you attach some useful advice along side.
Thanks In advance.
What should I do about my relationship?
Do not break this young lady's heart, but escape now while the escaping is good. You can do it tactfully and politely and maybe even keep a good friendship, as well. You seem interested in formatting her with some of your preferences or ideas which may or may not be a great idea. It always works better when you are able to accept the other person just the way she is, and this young lady - well, you clearly are unable to accept her just the way she is. To be direct: "It ain't workin'." This is not the stuff from which arguments are made, neither. And it is more than a difference of opinion. I would have you be a perfect gentleman and let her down ever so gracefully, because it would appear to me you are looking for someone different... VERY different. This young lady doesn't "fill the bill." And do you know what? She is probably feeling all this, as well. Women are very intuitive, as you know.
What should I do about my relationship?
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What should I do about my relationship?
Just tell her in a nice, unhostile way that it bothers you when she does not dress accordingly when you two go on dates. Say something like "hunnie, you know you're the most gorgeous girl in the world but don't you think that grunt look can go???" :-) BE VERY CAREFUL MY FRIEND.....word it wrong in the least bit and you WILL hurt her feelings. Otherwise, just soak it up and learn to enjoy her quirks =) Good luck!
What should I do about my relationship?
So many criticisms suggest that you are not truly attached to your girlfriend. In your position I would suggest that you spent more time with your studies and in time, hopfully, you are bound to meet up with a girl who suits your particular temperament better. You are going to have to learn to be more tolerant - her "vices" don't seem too bad to me. Believe me, there are a lot worse things than "coffee breath" !
What should I do about my relationship?
there was something about you liked maybe it was her "i dont give a **** attitude" we often fancy people who are our opposites. but if its bugging you that much then maybe its time to get out cos it just become a bigger problem. and at the mo you can use your a'levels as the excuse. i'm studying really hard and its important to me you get the jist. but think carefullly before you do this and make sure you are doing the right thing.
What should I do about my relationship?
One thing I have learned in life people don't change either because they refuse to or can't. For arguments sake let's say you CAN change her. Are you willling to invest that much time and effort into someone your not really crazy about. It's been 4 months and you already said she likes you more than you like her. Why be in a relationship where in 4 months your "blah" about the whole relationship.
Do you realize how many people are on this Earth. Maybe this girl is better left a friend.
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