My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

My BF has below shoulder length hair and loves it, and so do I. Both of us are part of the wedding party on my sisters side and she is getting married in six weeks.

My BF's hair has not been an issue until now, but I think she is being influenced by her future mother in law. Maybe this is a play to try and force him to cut it, but I don't want that and neither does he.

This past weekend she called me and said that she now wants him to wear his hair pinned up for the wedding. We had already agreed either a low ponytail or a braid (even a french braid) might look good (formal but not too femme). But now she says she is insisting on a tucked under FB.

I feel really torn now. My BF is not happy about it. Netiher am I. But I don't want to pull out of the wedding either. My mom thinks my BF is being overly sensitive for not just agreeing to it and is in tears most of the time and is on my sisters side - saying its her wedding. I am in the middle.

Any suggestions?

Lisa

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

You've got to be kidding!

If this is the least of her worries, tell her to get over it.

The guys in my wedding party went from bald to hair past their waistbands and I didn't care one way or another as long as nobody dyed it sky-blue-pink with a yellow background.

These were and are the people that mean a lot to me in my life and I'll take them the way they are.

It's like saying, Yes I love you now change. Back out of the wedding party now!!!!

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

Your sister should have considered his hair when she asked him to be in the wedding. She is being VERY selfish in regards to wanting him to cut his hair. I'd say the most compromise you'd do is a low ponytail. A French braid is a realyl bad idea. If she can't compromise then the only choice is to have him not be in the wedding.

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

I realize that it is your sister's day but there is only so much compromising that you can do. It's really up to you and him what to tell her but I think that if you both feel that strongly about it then you should let her know. If he's not good enough the way he is then he must not be good enough to be in the wedding, don't let her change him. You've held up your end by offering to put it in a pony tail or even braiding it, so if she has a problem. I would stand up for myself and my BF Good Luck

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

It is your sister's day just do it to her. Its not like she is telling your boyfriend to cut it off.

Your sister will be stressed enough planning for the wedding and i am sure she will be greatful that her mother in law will not have something to ***** about.

Be the bigger people and do what ever silly thing she wishes without arguing on her big day and i am sure she will return the sentiment on your wedding day.

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

Its her wedding, so you either do what she wants or you BF should back out of being in the wedding party.

2nd is this the 60s, tell the freak to get his hair cut.

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

I say it's his hair and he should be able to simply pull it back into a ponytail and that should be fine for pictures. Anything else (french braid??? What are they thinking??) would be micromanaging the wedding. Anything's better than the maid of honor showing up for the wedding with two hickeys on her neck and not wearing the gold/pearl necklace given to her at the rehearsal dinner ("oh, you wanted me to wear that?").

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

If I were you I'd tell them I agree to it and then simply not attend. I'm sure there are a lot more constructive things you and your boyfriend can find to do on that day rather than attend an outdated ritual and deal with all the drama queens.

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

It is your sister's day, not yours or your boyfriend's. You have a simple choice, accept her wish, or have him respectfully withdraw from the wedding party if he cannot agree to her wish.

Simple.

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

I can totally relate to what your going through. My friend wants me to grow my hair long for her wedding. (I am one of her Bridesmaids). I usually have my hair medium length because it is thick and curly and a pain to take care of when it is long. Anyway, in answer to your question, yes she is being a bit selfish, however the wedding is all about the bride. I have to grow my hair long and let it drive me crazy for my friend's wedding so I guess my advice would be to have to your boyfriend pin up his hair for the wedding ceremony and pictures and then let it down for the reception. Good luck!!

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

Think of it this way - would your sister ask a bridesmaid to cut her hair? I doubt it. While she might express a preference, it's certainly up to the person to decide how to do their own hair. Since he was nice enough to offer the pony tail (I don't think the French braid is quite it either - but just my opinion), I think she should be gracious and accept his willingness to cooperate. A person is ultimately doing the bride and/or groom a favor by bein in their wedding - it's generally not an inexpensive proposition for those who argree to participate. I think she should simply be happy that there are those willing to honor her on her special day, and quit worrying about whether they meet her personal standards of beauty. If she likes them, it shouldn't really matter - and I have a pretty good idea that she'll get married just fine no matter what he does with his hair!

It may be your sister's wedding, but it's your boyfriend's hair!

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

She is probably being unselfish by having him in her wedding and is probably doing that for YOU. But the hair is just bothering her and her in-laws too much. If he doesn't want to comply then HE should pull out. Why would you pull out, it really has nothing to do with you. It is not your hair. Your sister is probably way stressed out and even if you feel her request is unreasonable can't you take into consideration that it is her big day and be a little flexible? She isn't asking anyone to do anything drastic after all - where is the Love?

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

I think you and your boyfriend should just take a deep breath and go along. Who knows, maybe she will even change her mind again before the big day.

She is probably stressing like crazy and maybe the MiL is nagging at her or maybe not. But the point is that she has asked you (her sister) for some support in this. You didn't say, but as her sister are you the Maid of Honor? If so, you should really be there for her and not thinking about backing out.

If you let something this silly get between you and your family (mom, sister etc) then I think you might regret it in the future years. Tell your boyfriend it's only for a few hours. Like someone said, he can probably take the pins out as soon as you get to the reception. No one will probably even notice anyway as all eyes will be on the bride and groom. It's not like she has asked him to put baby's breath in his hair is it? Just relax.

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

Oh, just do whatever Bridezilla and Mother of Bridezilla want.

It's just for the day!

Here's a suggestion for when your wedding comes up: If your sister wants to stand in YOUR wedding, make HER do something she'll hate with HER hair (may I suggest a cut like mine?). After all, fair's fair! It's YOUR wedding now!

My sister wants my BF to wear his hair pinned up for her wedding - is she being selfish?

I think your sister is making way to much of a big deal out of his hair. People are not going to be focused on him. I think your boyfriend should just wear a low pony tail. The French braid will look to girly and people will look. A few things went wrong at my wedding and no one noticed. People look at the over all picture of the wedding and mostly how beautiful the bride looks,they do not focus on small things. His hair tucked under with pins will look stupid and people will look at it. Your sister really needs to chill. Good luck